The Tattoed Lady

It’s funny how our perspective and opinions change over the years.  10 years ago I would have told you that I would never get a tattoo.  My reasoning was that it lasts forever and will look funny when you get old.  Now?  I want a tattoo so bad it hurts.  What about my old reasonings for not having one?  I think they are rubbish.  The fact of the matter is that when my tattoo looks funny it won’t be just that part of my body that will be gravitationally challenged.  Getting older is a fact of life.  Life is short and I want to experience it to the fullest.   And I have decided that part of that experience will be a tattoo.  It’ll be a while before I get one.  Lots of other things I need to do first.  But in the mean time I have fallen in love with some lovely photos of tattooed ladies…

Abstinence Only Education vs. Sex Education and How I Survived the Former Because of the Latter

This week I discovered SexOutLoud.  A wonderfully intelligent and sex-positive podcast hosted by Tristan Taormino.  The very first podcast was a discussion with Dan Savage.  It was a wonderful conversation that started with abstinence only education in schools and moved on to the difference between queer and straight sex and what the two communities could learn from each other.  Once the podcast was over I felt that I had learned so much and had been given so much to digest.  I also felt much more open and positive about sex which just proved to me that Tristan and Dan are two truly wonderful people that have something important to share with the world.

The abstinence only education piece of this podcast got me thinking about how I grew up and how grateful I am for the sex education I received in middle school and high school.  If it wasn’t for sex education in health class, I wouldn’t have learned about birth control.  Thank god for my middle school health teacher that took the initiative to teach us not only that condoms should be used during sex but also how to put one on.  I probably wouldn’t have learned about STD’s and how to protect myself from them either.

You see, as a child/teenager I was taught that sex is something you saved for marriage.  My mom never shied away from the sex talk with me but since the expectation was that I wouldn’t have sex until I married I apparently didn’t need to learn about birth control.  And I apparently didn’t need to learn about protection from STD’s because I would probably be marrying a virgin just like me.  My mom never had a problem with me learning these things in school but she didn’t put importance on them at home.

In my very early twenties I started distancing myself from my religious upbringing for numerous reasons.  Around that time I also re-met my high school sweetheart – now known as my Partner in Crime.  We started dating and ended up getting married.  Yeah, we had sex before we married.  And I am thankful everyday for the sex education I had in school because I was smart enough (as was he) to know that we should use a condom.  I am also thankful for an aunt who is a doctor as well as someone I could trust to talk to about my sexual activity.  That same aunt gave me my first birth control Rx.  That Rx I wouldn’t have thought to ask for had it not been for the education that I didn’t get at home.

So yeah, I can say from personal experience that an abstinence only education taught me little and protected me from nothing.  Thankfully the sex education I received in school gave me the protection I needed when I decided to become sexually active.  Had it not been for that education in school I have no doubt that I would have made poor choices that wold have ended in a unwanted preganancy and/or STD.

Conversations With My Partner in Crime #1

This conversation just happened.  Quick background.  My porn preference is gay porn or bi with guy on guy action.  Partner in Crime prefers het and lesbian porn.

Me: I am so disturbed.  I just saw a pic on Twitter of three guys penetrating one guy’s asshole.  Shit you see when you follow porn stars…

Partner in Crime: And you just had to share?  And you chose me to share it with?

Me: Yes.  And Yes.  I should be able to share all this shit with you.

Partner in Crime: Just so long as you equally share boobies and vajayjay.  And girl ass.

Me: Um, but then I have to watch that.  How about you tell me about vaginas, tits and assholes and I’ll tell you about penises and assholes?

Me: I am so blogging this conversation.


And so I did.  You’re welcome.